Monday, May 31, 2021

True Grit X



I’ve been writing about Grit for over a decade now – see KR Connects:

  • With Grit, Nothing is Impossible, August 25 2009 – (Grit, Guts and Genius),
  • Donut Theory, November 12 2014,
  • When the Going Gets Tough, January 15 2015,
  • Tougher than the Rest, February 11 2015 – which I’ll be republishing in a week or so,
  • Build Your Wings on the Way Down, June 4 2015,
  • Never, Never Give In, November 10 2015,
  • True Grit, June 2 2016 – where I talked about Angela Duckworth’s book The Power of Passion and Perseverance,
  • True Grit, February 13 2020 – an article I wrote for In-Cumbria magazine in 2017, and
  • True Grit, May 13 2020 – laying out Peterson and Seligman’s Character Strengths and Virtues.


Here’s Angela Duckworth’s (Professor/Psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania) latest thinking beautifully summarised and enhanced by Jon Gordon – sent to me by my Canuck Cultural Curator, Robin Dyke, with my own notes added.




Angela Duckworth identifies grit as the number-one predictor and factor of success. It's not talent, title, wealth, or appearance. It's grit, the ability to work hard for a long period of time towards a goal; to persevere, overcome, and keep moving forward in the face of adversity, failure, rejection, and obstacles. Success doesn't happen overnight. Along the way a leader and team will face countless challenges and will need Grit to find a way forward! And this begs the question. If Grit is so important and individuals and teams really need Grit, then what is it? And if Grit drives us, what drives Grit? I believe Grit is:

If you don't love it, you'll never be great at it. If you don't love it, you won't work to overcome all the challenges to keep doing it. If you love what you do, you won't quit when the world says you should. You will continue to show up every day, do the work, and discover success, created by the love you have inside you.  (KR note – see Lovemarks, The Future Beyond Brands.)

If you have a vision for what you want and you know why you want it, you will work hard and persevere in order to achieve it.  When you know your why and you know the way you won’t let obstacles get in the way.  (KR note – See 64 Shots.)

Research shows that when you believe in a brighter and better future you will continue to take the actions necessary to create it. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. What you believe determines what you create. If you believe it’s possible, you will continue to work to make it happen.  (KR note – Nothing is Impossible.)

There will be times when your failures and challenges bring you down. There will be moments you want to give up. It's during these discouraging times that you need more than positive thinking. You need faith and hope to keep you going. Faith keeps you focused on possibilities instead of problems. Hope keeps you moving towards the future instead of living in the past.  (KR note – Perpetual Optimism is a Force Multiplier; Hope is Optimism based on Data.)

When you get knocked down your resilience will move you to get back up. You will keep fighting for what you love, what you believe in, what you hope for and what you want. Even when your dream is killed a thousand times, you will keep reviving it and try one more time.  (KR note – “It ain’t over till it’s over.  And if it is, go again.”

You just won't give up. When your dream is revived, your stubbornness keeps it alive. You won't let your circumstances define you. You are determined to define your circumstances.  (KR note – Never Out of The Fight.)

The fear of failure I'm talking about is not a paralysing kind of fear but a healthy dose of fear that causes you to work harder and practice and prepare more. Combine this with a desire to prove yourself that you have what it takes; that you can do it and you'll keep working to improve in order to reach your goal. All the great ones, no matter how much success they have, still have a healthy dose of fear of failure and desire to prove oneself. It's what keeps you humble and keeps you working to be great.  (KR note – Fail Fast, Learn Fast, Fix Fast.)


Wednesday, May 26, 2021


Here’s a note from US Rugby International, coach and good bloke – Mark Griffin.



On Monday the first episode of our podcast ‘Connecting with Purpose’ went live - a conversation with the truly inspirational Kevin Roberts.  Kevin is the founder of Red Rose Consulting, former Worldwide CEO and Chairman of the incredible Saatchi & Saatchi.  There is so much positive and purposeful wisdom packed into these 40 minutes - you really don't want to miss it.  Treat yourself to some #MondayMotivation and kick off your week and reframe your potential!


Follow @PurposeFused for everything people, purpose and performance!


You can view the full video conversation and keynotes from episode #1 here:


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Please give us a rating and review and share with anyone you think might benefit, so together we can inspire more people to live with purpose.


Thank-you and enjoy!



Mark Griffin

Monday, May 24, 2021

Focus • Commitment • Discipline

I’ve long believed in this particular Power of Three.  The whole idea of multi-tasking is anathema to me – most of the time it looks like doing a bunch of things simultaneously and doing none of them very well.  I am a fan of frameworks, not distractions and Robin switched me on to a Robert Holden book ‘Happiness Now’ which talks about not denying our feelings, but rather feeling them and then committing to something else.


Focus on how you’re feeling,

Move forward and commit to do something else.


Be disciplined in doing that something else, not just thinking about it.

  • When in fear, feel fear and commit to love.
  • When in tears, cry tears and commit to healing.
  • When unhappy, honour it and commit to joy.
  • When in conflict, own it and commit to peace.
  • When in pain, express it and commit to freedom.
  • When angry, feel it and commit to harmony.
  • When resentful, be honest and commit to forgiveness.
  • When hurting, nurse yourself and commit to laughter.
  • When down and out, rest up and commit to success.


Fighting a feeling is tough, and rarely works.  They can grow worse as we focus on the feeling, not on the solution.


Don’t deny your feelings and don’t get upset with yourself because you’re having them.  As Colin Powell said, “Get mad, then get over it”.  Commit to the solution, not the problem.



Thursday, May 20, 2021

Foodie Friday – from Lake Austin, Texas (Texas Hill Country)

My daughter Vanessa and I had the most wonderful time reconnecting after a long year apart.  Deciding where to travel was based on minimal travel time, good weather and a quiet place to relax.  By choosing Lake Austin Resort we had the extra bonus of the food! 


Thanks to Executive Chef Stéphane Beaucamp, this is the first spa experience where we were looking forward to the meals before the treatments.  Spa menus are usually geared to offer healthy dishes which can taste boring and unexciting.  Not at Lake Austin – the menus beautifully describe the clean, tasteful dishes.  As the menu items all sounded so delicious and hard to choose, Lake Austin recommended ordering more than one selection. Of course we did.  And, of course, we enjoyed every mouthful.  The dishes were simple yet packed with a combination of flavours that left our tastebuds in bliss.


The culinary experience was enhanced by the extraordinary herb garden.  So many out of the ordinary herbs in the garden, e.g. watermelon, orange, grapefruit mint and pineapple sage to name a few.  X-factor herbs like these helped turn the dishes into magic.

Chef Beaucamp is passionate about creating memorable meals that are fun, delicious, and healthy.  Flavoursome guilt-free eating!  What do you think about trying Grilled Nopales?  This was our first time.  Chef’s Nopales is served with grilled cactus, black bean puree, pico de gallo, red cabbage, sautéed mushroom and poblano, queso fresco – imaginative and tasty.  Who knew – edible cacti (apart from the Javelinas!).

With a little help from the book, FRESH Healthy Cooking and Living from Lake Austin Spa Resort, I hope to create appetising dishes in our Desert Dream home.  So far I’ve nailed one – Rainbow Trout and Shrimp Mousse on Endives.  (I will be serving this to our first post pandemic guests this week!).


Living the healthy – but tasty Desert Life!


Check out the website:



Sunday, May 16, 2021

10 Timeless Peak Performance Reminders


And here are another 10 foundational tips for leaders everywhere.

  • Build your life around The Four Agreements.
  • Fail Fast, Learn Fast, Fix Fast.
  • Build your team on the Four Pillars (Responsibility, Learning, Recognition and Joy).
  • When given command, take charge and do what’s right.
  • Make things happen.
  • Start every day with your ABC’s (Ambition, Belief, Courage).
  • Inspire everyone you touch to be the best they can be, in pursuit of our Purpose.
  • Focus.  Commitment.  Discipline.
  • Create leaders, not followers.
  • Adapt.  Improvise.  Overcome.



Wednesday, May 12, 2021

Top 10 Tips for 2021


Here are 10 tips for leaders to focus on over the balance of the year.

  • Never Stop Listening.
  • Tell the Truth.
  • OODA (Observe, Orient, Decide, Act).
  • Demonstrate the Three HUMs (Humanity, Humility, Humour).
  • Build a Great Team for the New Abnormal.
  • Become a galvanising force for Change.
  • Invest in Caring and Demanding Leadership expertise (KSA).
  • Instill Curiosity throughout your Team.
  • Increase the Pace.
  • Connect Creativity.



Sunday, May 9, 2021

Getting Fired and Connecting with Clients


Paul was fired – by himself and others (starting like me, with his Headmaster) at least four times – with two/three near misses.  He has just written a great book for Ad folks and leaders everywhere.


Check it out on his site


Paul was at Saatchi & Saatchi before my time – 1978-1990.  He rose to become a Group Account Director, then left to start his own agency with a senior S&S Creative and Planner – Cowan Kemsley Taylor.


Paul’s book is easy, uncomplicated, simple and authentic.  He doesn’t demand too much effort from the reader to fully understand what he wants to get across.


If you have the opportunity to read it, take it.  As Eric Burden once said “It will be worth it”.


It’s available for £12 in the Apple Bookstore and in softcover from other usual outlets.


(Thank you to the Goode Simon for the heads-up.)



Wednesday, May 5, 2021

God is in the House


Jesus looked across the table and asked "so where have you been for the last few months?".


God replied "I've been all around Lancashire”.


Jesus was shocked.  "There’s been a pandemic for more than a year, and you've been in Lancashire! What were you doing there?"


God smiled and quietly replied "working from home son, working from home!"



Proud Lancastrian

Sunday, May 2, 2021

In Praise of the Free-Thinking Ones


We’ve saluted Jobs’ The Crazy Ones (December 6, 2020) and Kerouac’s The Mad Ones (April 21, 2021).  Now it’s time to salute those who think for themselves, and dare to be different.  A doff of the cap to Paul Numi / Peter Corijn (September 11, 2020) who’s new single “Multitudes” was released on May 1st.  Download it here:


Tell your friends – especially the Free Thinkers!