Monday, June 21, 2021

Wishing and Hoping



Robin sent me this.  Watched it twice a day!  Still laughing.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gxm7Hu-IHJs

 

KR

Wednesday, June 16, 2021

Throwback Thursday – Happiness Runs

December 23, 2014

 

 

Was this a precursor to Covid-19?

 

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Just spent a pretty miserable few days fighting the Adenovirus – and losing!!  Doctor believes I picked it up on the Sydney – Dallas flight nine days ago.  It’s highly contagious and commonly referred to as ‘The Killer Cold’ – more information than I needed.  Characterised by violent coughing fits, phlegm on the lungs, raw throat, incessant sneezing, blocked ears and in my case, viral conjunctivitis in both eyes (my first and hopefully last experience of this little gem – think grit under your eyelids, pink or red replacing white and baby blue (!!) and seeping gunk jamming your eyelids tight).  Lovely.  No sleep, no energy, no focus, no fun.

 

Two things helped though.

 

A nursing Sister friend, Gill Belchetz told me “You will get better”.  A simple but powerful thought.  And two year old Cameron cheered me up no end.  I asked him – after a classic two year old boy’s penchant for wayward destruction – are you a good boy or a naughty boy?  He looked me straight into my (pink) eye, grinned and said “A Happy Boy”.  Lest we forget.

 

It’s great to be celebrating Christmas with friends and family – and recovery is under way.

 

Happiness Runs.

 

KR

Monday, June 14, 2021

Doing The Right Thing

 

My eldest son Ben posted this on LinkedIn yesterday.

 

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True leaders shine through in times of crisis.

None more than Simon Kjaer.

On a harrowing day in Copenhagen, Kjaer started the day expecting to lead his team to victory against Finland. Instead he became a hero for other reasons.
When Christian Eriksen suddenly collapsed, Kjaer was one of the first players to his side and started performing CPR. Knowing the gravity of the situation, he ordered his teammates to form a human shield to give privacy to the situation for the media’s glare. He then went and comforted Eriksen’s wife during the terrible unknown moments.

Kjaer showed calmness under pressure, he demonstrated awareness, and showed empathy. He played a key role in saving Eriksen’s life while also doing his best and bringing the team and nation together in a traumatic moment.
The role of the football captain can be seen as symbolic in some countries but in the case of Denmark, they don’t have just a captain but a remarkable leader.
An example to all.

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KR


Sunday, June 13, 2021

1971


50 years ago, I left my North Country home Lancaster and headed south on my first great adventure – with three year old daughter Nikki in tow – to the biggest city in the world – London Town.  The epicentre of everything I held dear – opportunity, growth, disruption, and excitement.  The chance to make something of myself – the chance to make dreams come true, the chance to make something happen for me and my family.

 

1971 – the new series on Apple shows it all – Oz / Bowie / the Youth Revolution.  Spellbinding.  Our time was then.

 

KR

Thursday, June 10, 2021

Foodie Friday – California Dreaming


A week by the Pacific.  JSX Airlines’ 30 seater from its own terminal at Phoenix – no queues, no security hassle, 16 passengers, three check-in stations, temperature checking, business class seating – the nearest thing to private jet service at public pricing.  A joyful return to the skies – to Burbank (not the dreaded LAX).  Luggage hand-delivered within five minutes of landing, no queues, no lines.  Door to door: Desert Dream, Carefree, AZ to Oceana, Ocean Avenue, Santa Monica in 3½ hours with zero hassle.

 

An early dinner at a favourite haunt, just a walk away from our hotel – The Blue Plate Oysterette.  Upscale but super-casual seafood – open kitchen – fresh Branzino, NZ Salmon, Sea Bass – all prepared simply.  Six/seven different types of US oysters, great raw bar of cerviches and shrimp, views of the ocean, low key, vibrant, locally sourced from California fishermen, and daily pick-ups at LAX for more exotic choices.  We stuck to the basics – a dozen oysters – Minter Sweets from Skagit Bay, Tomahawks from Menemsha Pond, Sequim Bay Sapphires and Kumamoto from Baja (they also had Kiwi Cups and Kaipara from New Zealand).  Trudy had Sea Bass tacos and I had a Branzino from Greece – grilled in its skin with chimichurri.  A change from our desert life to the seaside – and how good does fish/seafood taste when you can smell the salty sea air and feel the fresh sea breeze?

 

A lunch in the Saturday sunshine – in Malibu village – 25 miles from The Oceana.  A great drive along the Pacific Coast Highway – surfers out everywhere hitting the waves – rubbernecking at the beachside homes of Cher, Lady Gaga, Barbra Streisand, Brad Pitt, Dustin Hoffman, Jack Nicholson, Miley Cyrus, Bill Murray, Robert Redford, Goldie Hawn and a few others.

 

Then to a beautiful vine-covered patio/garden at Tony’s Taverna.  The place for delicious, classic Greek food – a mezze of taramasalata, pita bread, grilled octopus with olive oil and lemon, marithes (whitebait), spanakopita and some veal/lamb sausages.  No room for a main – just Horiatiki salad and a classic Greek yoghurt with cherries and honey to share for dessert.  A taste of the Aegean – in Malibu.

 

An impromptu visit to one of our favourite hotels and stomping grounds – Shutters on the Beach.  A table by the window at One Pico on the beach with the gentle 7pm evening waves foaming in.  The best meal of our stay so far.  Trudy had the Sea Bass with fava beans/purée and green olives.  I couldn’t resist the Halibut (pure white, firm, full of flavour), English peas (irresistible), gigante beans, marjoram and mint citrus – melted in my mouth.

 

Oh, I do like to be by the seaside,

I do like to be by the sea.

 

And tonight – a change of pace.  Wally’s – one of the two places we buy our wines from.  A great wine place, terrific selections, superb, authentic surroundings – wooden chairs/tables, open kitchen, surrounded by the world’s finest wines.  We ordered three bottles of the 2018 Massetino (Masseto’s superb second wine) to be shipped home to Arizona and also took some truffle salami, bison salami, banana peppers, petits poivrons to carry home.  We shared the chorizo spiced grilled octopus with mashed heirloom carrots, pea tendrils, lime crème fraiche with black garlic mole.  Then Trudy had a Truffle Pizzetta – delicious and I had Steak Tartare – prime tenderloin, topped with caviar and leek alioli – amazing combination.  A superb change of pace experience – eating ‘earth’ by the sea.

 

And continuing that change of pace – dinner at Uovo – a tiny Italian spot in downtown Santa Monica – two blocks from the ocean.  Billed as “the one place outside of Italy that serves fresh pasta made in Italy”.  And indeed it is – quite possibly the best pasta I’ve tasted in the US.  All they serve is pasta (from their kitchen in Bologna) – Tonnarelli, Taglionini and Tagliatelle.  I had truffle, Trudy had tagliatelle ai Carciofi (artichoke, olive oil and Parmigiano-Reggiano).  A great hidden secret to try during your next trip here.

 

And our final evening – a classic – The Ivy at the Shore.  A North Hollywood / Santa Monica icon.  All pinks and turquoise.  Classic dishes – beautifully cooked comfort food.  Couldn’t resist the fish ‘n chips with a cold beer.

 

Back to the Desert tomorrow – more Fun in the Sun.

 

KR

Wednesday, June 2, 2021

Throwback Thursday – Tougher Than the Rest

February 11, 2015

 

Reminders for all of us as we move from Survive to Revive and Thrive.

I’ve written often in the past about the importance of grit and mental toughness in the boardroom and on the gridiron.  Well, if you want to learn how to cook, ask a chef.  If you want to learn how to paint, ask an artist.  And if you want to learn about persistence and resilience, who better to ask than a U.S. Navy SEAL?

In a recent article in
Business Insider, Wired Magazine writer and founder of the great blog Barking Up The Wrong Tree Eric Barker spoke with his friend and former SEAL Platoon Commander James Waters about how his experiences in SEAL training and deployment align with the latest scientific research about grit, motivation, expertise, and how people survive the most challenging situations.

First is having a purpose and a sense of greater meaning.  Barker relates how out of an initial 256 volunteers in Waters’ SEALS training class, only 16 graduated – a whopping 94% attrition rate.  Research shows that when it comes to physical distress, our brains quit long before our bodies give out.  The difference just might come down to having a higher purpose and an intrinsic goal (“Serving my country is something that matters deeply to me.”) rather than an extrinsic goal (“Being a SEAL would be really cool, and making officer one day would be a powerful position.”).

Confidence is key, but so is staying realistic.  “People in tough situations need to be very realistic about the danger they’re in – but they need to be confident in their ability to handle it,” writes Barker, noting that studies have shown how optimism and despair can often be self-fulfilling prophecies.

It might surprise readers to learn that SEALS spend only about 25% of their time deployed in the field and the rest of their time honing their skills.  There are so many disciplines that SEALS must master, preparedness becomes paramount.  Indeed, Barker cites research that demonstrates how people who’ve prepared have a greater likelihood of surviving catastrophic scenarios “because they’ve already done the deliberation the other people around them are just now going through” and “reducing uncertainty reduces fear”.

Focusing on improvement is another SEAL-worthy lesson.  Rather than frame situations as binary, win/lose scenarios, consider every situation a learning experience.  Take a page from the elitist of the elite: Navy SEALS perform a rigorous debrief following each mission during which they spend 90% of the time discussing what could be improved the next time.

It’s long been said that there’s no ‘I’ in ‘team’.  So it goes that lone wolves don’t play well with SEALS.  “Giving help and taking on the role of caretaker [increases] the feeling of meaning in our lives” Barker writes.  Having a support network – knowing that you can give and get help – is invaluable during tough times.

Faced with intensive training that goes on for a year or longer, Waters also learned the importance of celebrating small wins.  And the scientific research on happiness backs up his hunch: a series of small victories has a greater cumulative impact than infrequent big wins.  Recognising the small good things also helps you appreciate that life will always have its peaks and valleys.

Finally, laugh!  “Experts say that humour provides a powerful buffer against stress and fear” Barker writes.  “When people are trapped in a stressful situation and feeling overwhelmed, they're stuck in one way of thinking: This is terrible.  I've got to get out of here.  But if you can take a humorous perspective, then by definition you're looking at it differently – you're breaking out of that rigid mind-set.”

These are the strategies the toughest of the tough use when faced with the most physically demanding and dangerous situations the world has to offer.  Now, imagine applying these lessons in true grit during stressful business meetings, weekend Hockey League games, or with a tantrum-throwing child!

 

KR

Monday, May 31, 2021

True Grit X


 
GROWTH • RESILIENCE • INSTINCT • TENACITY

 

I’ve been writing about Grit for over a decade now – see KR Connects:

  • With Grit, Nothing is Impossible, August 25 2009 – (Grit, Guts and Genius),
  • Donut Theory, November 12 2014,
  • When the Going Gets Tough, January 15 2015,
  • Tougher than the Rest, February 11 2015 – which I’ll be republishing in a week or so,
  • Build Your Wings on the Way Down, June 4 2015,
  • Never, Never Give In, November 10 2015,
  • True Grit, June 2 2016 – where I talked about Angela Duckworth’s book The Power of Passion and Perseverance,
  • True Grit, February 13 2020 – an article I wrote for In-Cumbria magazine in 2017, and
  • True Grit, May 13 2020 – laying out Peterson and Seligman’s Character Strengths and Virtues.

 

Here’s Angela Duckworth’s (Professor/Psychologist at the University of Pennsylvania) latest thinking beautifully summarised and enhanced by Jon Gordon – sent to me by my Canuck Cultural Curator, Robin Dyke, with my own notes added.

 

GRIT - THE #1 KEY SUCCESS FACTOR.

 

Angela Duckworth identifies grit as the number-one predictor and factor of success. It's not talent, title, wealth, or appearance. It's grit, the ability to work hard for a long period of time towards a goal; to persevere, overcome, and keep moving forward in the face of adversity, failure, rejection, and obstacles. Success doesn't happen overnight. Along the way a leader and team will face countless challenges and will need Grit to find a way forward! And this begs the question. If Grit is so important and individuals and teams really need Grit, then what is it? And if Grit drives us, what drives Grit? I believe Grit is:

DRIVEN BY LOVE...
If you don't love it, you'll never be great at it. If you don't love it, you won't work to overcome all the challenges to keep doing it. If you love what you do, you won't quit when the world says you should. You will continue to show up every day, do the work, and discover success, created by the love you have inside you.  (KR note – see Lovemarks, The Future Beyond Brands.)

INSPIRED BY VISION AND PURPOSE...
If you have a vision for what you want and you know why you want it, you will work hard and persevere in order to achieve it.  When you know your why and you know the way you won’t let obstacles get in the way.  (KR note – See 64 Shots.)

FUELED BY OPTIMISM AND BELIEF...
Research shows that when you believe in a brighter and better future you will continue to take the actions necessary to create it. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. What you believe determines what you create. If you believe it’s possible, you will continue to work to make it happen.  (KR note – Nothing is Impossible.)

POWERED BY FAITH AND HOPE...
There will be times when your failures and challenges bring you down. There will be moments you want to give up. It's during these discouraging times that you need more than positive thinking. You need faith and hope to keep you going. Faith keeps you focused on possibilities instead of problems. Hope keeps you moving towards the future instead of living in the past.  (KR note – Perpetual Optimism is a Force Multiplier; Hope is Optimism based on Data.)

REVIVED BY RESILIENCE...
When you get knocked down your resilience will move you to get back up. You will keep fighting for what you love, what you believe in, what you hope for and what you want. Even when your dream is killed a thousand times, you will keep reviving it and try one more time.  (KR note – “It ain’t over till it’s over.  And if it is, go again.”

KEPT ALIVE BY STUBBORNNESS...
You just won't give up. When your dream is revived, your stubbornness keeps it alive. You won't let your circumstances define you. You are determined to define your circumstances.  (KR note – Never Out of The Fight.)

AND IF WE'RE HONEST INCLUDES SOME FEAR OF FAILURE AND DESIRE TO PROVE YOURSELF...
The fear of failure I'm talking about is not a paralysing kind of fear but a healthy dose of fear that causes you to work harder and practice and prepare more. Combine this with a desire to prove yourself that you have what it takes; that you can do it and you'll keep working to improve in order to reach your goal. All the great ones, no matter how much success they have, still have a healthy dose of fear of failure and desire to prove oneself. It's what keeps you humble and keeps you working to be great.  (KR note – Fail Fast, Learn Fast, Fix Fast.)

KR

Wednesday, May 26, 2021

PurposeFused


Here’s a note from US Rugby International, coach and good bloke – Mark Griffin.

 

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On Monday the first episode of our podcast ‘Connecting with Purpose’ went live - a conversation with the truly inspirational Kevin Roberts.  Kevin is the founder of Red Rose Consulting, former Worldwide CEO and Chairman of the incredible Saatchi & Saatchi.  There is so much positive and purposeful wisdom packed into these 40 minutes - you really don't want to miss it.  Treat yourself to some #MondayMotivation and kick off your week and reframe your potential!

 

Follow @PurposeFused for everything people, purpose and performance!

 

You can view the full video conversation and keynotes from episode #1 here: https://www.purposefused.com/connectingwithpurpose

 

Or if you prefer audio, download on Apple, Spotify or Google:

Please give us a rating and review and share with anyone you think might benefit, so together we can inspire more people to live with purpose.

 

Thank-you and enjoy!

 

Best

Mark Griffin

Monday, May 24, 2021

Focus • Commitment • Discipline


I’ve long believed in this particular Power of Three.  The whole idea of multi-tasking is anathema to me – most of the time it looks like doing a bunch of things simultaneously and doing none of them very well.  I am a fan of frameworks, not distractions and Robin switched me on to a Robert Holden book ‘Happiness Now’ which talks about not denying our feelings, but rather feeling them and then committing to something else.

 

Focus on how you’re feeling,

Move forward and commit to do something else.

 

Be disciplined in doing that something else, not just thinking about it.

  • When in fear, feel fear and commit to love.
  • When in tears, cry tears and commit to healing.
  • When unhappy, honour it and commit to joy.
  • When in conflict, own it and commit to peace.
  • When in pain, express it and commit to freedom.
  • When angry, feel it and commit to harmony.
  • When resentful, be honest and commit to forgiveness.
  • When hurting, nurse yourself and commit to laughter.
  • When down and out, rest up and commit to success.

 

Fighting a feeling is tough, and rarely works.  They can grow worse as we focus on the feeling, not on the solution.

 

Don’t deny your feelings and don’t get upset with yourself because you’re having them.  As Colin Powell said, “Get mad, then get over it”.  Commit to the solution, not the problem.

 

KR

Thursday, May 20, 2021

Foodie Friday – from Lake Austin, Texas (Texas Hill Country)


My daughter Vanessa and I had the most wonderful time reconnecting after a long year apart.  Deciding where to travel was based on minimal travel time, good weather and a quiet place to relax.  By choosing Lake Austin Resort we had the extra bonus of the food! 

 

Thanks to Executive Chef Stéphane Beaucamp, this is the first spa experience where we were looking forward to the meals before the treatments.  Spa menus are usually geared to offer healthy dishes which can taste boring and unexciting.  Not at Lake Austin – the menus beautifully describe the clean, tasteful dishes.  As the menu items all sounded so delicious and hard to choose, Lake Austin recommended ordering more than one selection. Of course we did.  And, of course, we enjoyed every mouthful.  The dishes were simple yet packed with a combination of flavours that left our tastebuds in bliss.

 

The culinary experience was enhanced by the extraordinary herb garden.  So many out of the ordinary herbs in the garden, e.g. watermelon, orange, grapefruit mint and pineapple sage to name a few.  X-factor herbs like these helped turn the dishes into magic.

Chef Beaucamp is passionate about creating memorable meals that are fun, delicious, and healthy.  Flavoursome guilt-free eating!  What do you think about trying Grilled Nopales?  This was our first time.  Chef’s Nopales is served with grilled cactus, black bean puree, pico de gallo, red cabbage, sautéed mushroom and poblano, queso fresco – imaginative and tasty.  Who knew – edible cacti (apart from the Javelinas!).

With a little help from the book, FRESH Healthy Cooking and Living from Lake Austin Spa Resort, I hope to create appetising dishes in our Desert Dream home.  So far I’ve nailed one – Rainbow Trout and Shrimp Mousse on Endives.  (I will be serving this to our first post pandemic guests this week!).

 

Living the healthy – but tasty Desert Life!

 

Check out the website:  www.lakeaustin.com

 

Trudy