Monday, March 26, 2018

Legacy in the Making.

I worked with a very smart guy at Team One in Los Angeles for over 15 years.  Mark Miller.  A brilliant thinker and strategist.  He’s been working on a book for a while now, about creating a legacy, leading change and writing the future – and it’s out now.  (At last!)

Most of us are familiar with the traditional way of looking at legacy—something preserved in the past.  Traditional legacy is all around us, evidenced by the steady churn of autobiographies, bequests, commemorations, and dedications we are forever leaving in our collective cultural wake.  This is not the legacy you will find in this book.

Legacy in the Making celebrates an active, dynamic form of “modern legacy,” seen through the eyes of a select group of extraordinary men and women who are pursuing their long-term ambitions in the age of now.  More than caretakers of the past, these modern legacy builders are also the authors of a vital today and tomorrow.  Rather than leaving their legacies behind them, they are looking ahead to harness their enduring ambitions and inspire others to help carry them forward.  These are not static, traditional legacies. These are legacies in the making.

Grab hold of a copy – Amazon of course.  You’ll enjoy it.


Thursday, March 22, 2018

Little Things That Matter.

I love a list as you know.  Came across this a few weeks ago – can’t remember where – but I photographed it from a newspaper somewhere on January 11.

Top Tips:
-       Hold Hands
-       Wait to watch the next episode of your favourite TV series together
-       Cook a home-made meal
-       Run a bath for your partner after they’ve had a long day
-       Have a cuddle
-       Let your partner choose the movie you watch
-       Plan a spontaneous trip away
-       Organise a candle-lit dinner

Oldies, but goldies.


Monday, March 19, 2018

Red Heads and Blue Heads.

About a year ago I wrote in praise of James Kerr’s book Legacy.  And just last week I wrote about the Power of Three.

This got me thinking again about Mental Toughness, the All Blacks, and how we can all get better about thriving in our Crazy World.  The brain has three parts (of course!):
-         Instinct
-         Thought
-         Emotion.

Under pressure one of them shuts down.  Which one?  Yes – Thought.

A Pressure Situation is one where:
-       Something important is at stake,
-       Trauma of previous experience is triggered,
-       There is: conflict, dissent, dispute, aggression, urgency, a deadline, a ticking clock,
-       There is distraction.
-       The shutters come down,
-       Our horizons narrow,
-       There’s no escape,
-       We’re overwhelmed,
-       We shut down, panic or become overly aggressive,
-       We choke,
-       We make poor decisions.

We become HOT:
-       Heated
-       Overwhelmed
-       Tense

We must go back to the Power of Three – and to the All Blacks and ACT.

-       Alternatives.  Look for options, adapt, adjust and overcome.
-       Consequences.  Understand the risk / reward equation and to choose.
-       Task.  Stay on task and execute.

Developing Mental Toughness comes in two parts.  Mental and Toughness (surprise, surprise).

Mental Capacity:       Toughness Capability:
Confidence                  Practice
Concentration              Precision
Composure         +       Problem-Solving
Control                        Positive
Completion                  Performer

And here are some pointers on each for you to think about.

Mental Capacity. 
-       Self-belief based on prior achievement, knowledge and clarity of personal purpose.
-       Shutting out of distractions in favour of focusing on the immediate task; and avoidance of negative thinking or negative self-talk.
-       Remaining calm and focused when handling pressure.
-       Emotional mastery that enables clarity of thought and action.
-       Can envisage the final successful act of performance.

Toughness Capability.
-  A systematic pre-performance routine of listening, learning, executing skills/drills that melds with the desired mental-emotional state of mind.
-       Recognises and visualises the necessary detailed steps required to perform at peak.
-       Systematic adoption of affirmative coping strategies using practical knowledge and mental imagery.
-       Construction of a positive mental approach and attitude to all aspects of life, savouring life’s pleasures through anticipation and reminiscence.
-       Has success systems in place while using failure as a stepping stone for future achievement.

It’s not getting any easier out there.  We’ve all got to toughen up.


Thursday, March 15, 2018

XV All Blacks Values

I’ve watched and admired the All Blacks for 40 years now – and sat on the NZ Rugby Board.  What makes them so successful?  It starts with Values.  Here they are.

1.         Sacrifice
      Give up things that won’t help you reach the summit.
      Proves that the goal is worth chasing.

2.    Respect
      The legacy, the team, and the role of every individual.
      Leave it better than when you found it.

 3.   Gratitude
     Pressure is a privilege.  Be grateful to have the opportunity to experience it.

4.    Acceptance
     Handle disappointment, man up, and do your job bloody well, whatever it is – for the Team.

5.      Speed
      In the mind.  A positive attitude.  Fail Fast, Learn Fast, Fix Fast.

6.    Trust
     Believe in yourself, your skills, your game-plan, your systems and your mates.

7.      Mental Toughness
      Learn and practice TCUP.

8.      Awareness
      Uphold the higher standards.  All the time.

9.      Open Mindedness
      Flexible thinking, responsive to new ideas, relish change.

10.   Accountability
     Everything can be done better.  Use examples of the best players making mistakes.  Everyone is accountable for the Team’s performance.

11.   Dedication
      Master basic skills.
      Meet.  Beat.  Repeat.

12.   Leadership
      Everyone is a leader.
      First know thyself.
      Know what you’re doing, why, when and where.

13.   Honesty
      With yourself and your team.
      Review performance shortfalls brutally and directly.

14.   Core Role
      Do your own job.  Trust your mates to do theirs.

15.   Continuous Improvement
      Wake up the next morning and figure out how to improve.
      Repeat daily.

Over to you now.